One of the side effects of a lack of self trust is second guessing.
Second guessing your decisions.
It's often accompanied by some form of "it's not good enough" or "it's not right enough" or "it's not the right time."
All of which results in more time, and more energy, not moving forward.
What is fascinating about...
I don't know feels like a reflex response sometimes.
It just seems to flow out.
It's always a lie.
You do know.
But if you have practiced it for some time, it's not only a habit, it creates something way more disruptive.
It keeps you focused on what you do not know.
And it keeps you from seeing what you do...
I don't often ask people's opinion before I buy something.
It doesn't naturally occur to me to ask "what is everyone wearing" before going to an event.
I didn't ask one single person for their thoughts when I decided to start my own business.
I consider myself hyper independent; and yet, I still seek approval, validation, acceptance in many...
Certainty is never certain.
We don’t get that.
We get probabilities.
We get odds in our favor
And odds that aren’t in our favor
We get chances
Some we take
Some we don’t
We get reasons to celebrate
We get reasons to mourn
In all of it we get choice
Choice to choose what we do with...
Four years ago I had to go to London for work.
Since I was over there, I decided to extend my trip and spend a few days in Paris for a long weekend by myself.
I had never been before.
It was just one in another long list of things I had done TRYING to feel better.
To feel something... anything.
I had poured all of my attention, effort and...
20 years ago I watched a movie that stuck with me.
It's not even a great movie.
But one sentiment has grounded me in curiosity ever since.
The movie was Dogma and the quote from the character, played by Chris Rock when questioned about beliefs is
I share a similar voice in my head that I am willing to bet you have too.
It says "You can't do that."
"What were you thinking?"
"That will never work."
It's constant and relentless.
And it gets louder and more persistent the bigger the idea or goal.
The more important.
The more difficult.
This isn't a coincidence.
When I left my career...
Perfect is an opinion.
It's a convenient way to avoid putting yourself out there.
Out into the world where you may get unwanted feedback.
And you may.
But the discomfort you fear of putting your imperfect work out there is far less, with far more benefits, than sitting in indecision and the discomfort of not enough.
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Have you ever heard this saying?
Being caught in the thick of thin things.
It’s new to me and perfectly representative of what I see so many people do, particularly at work.
Personally, I remember being both busy and bored.
This saying seems to describe this - being busy with things that don’t actually matter or...